Miguel and I had been married for seven years, years that unfolded quietly at first and then slowly hardened into routine and sacrifice. From the day we married, I agreed to live with his mother, Doña Carmen, who had suffered a stroke before our wedding and was left paralyzed on one side of her body. She needed help with everything: eating, bathing, changing positions in bed, even sleeping. At the time, I told myself that this was simply what marriage meant—joining not just a person, but an entire life, with all its burdens and obligations. I believed love was proven through endurance.
I learned how to lift her without hurting her, how to prepare her meals so she could swallow safely, how to recognize the early signs of pain or discomfort before she could speak them aloud. But Doña Carmen was not an easy woman. She criticized how I cooked, how I dressed, how I spoke, how I raised my son. She reminded me often that Miguel had “married beneath himself.” Still, I stayed silent. I told myself she was ill, frustrated, trapped in a body that no longer obeyed her. Compassion, I believed, meant absorbing cruelty without complaint.