The first time my sister said it out loud, it didn’t sound dramatic or angry, which somehow made it worse. Her voice was flat, efficient, like she was canceling a lunch reservation rather than cutting a human being out of a milestone moment. “I don’t want you at my wedding,” she said. “It would be embarrassing. I don’t want a fat relative in the photos.” For a few seconds I honestly thought my phone had glitched, that I had misheard her or that she was trying—and failing—to make a cruel joke. I waited for the laugh that never came.

When I finally spoke, my voice sounded strange to my own ears, thin and uncertain. “Rachel… are you serious?” She exhaled sharply, impatient. “Don’t make this harder than it needs to be. It’s my day. I don’t want the attention on you.” Before I could even gather myself enough to respond, the call shifted, and suddenly my parents’ voices were there too, layered over hers like backup singers in a song I’d been hearing my whole life.